The Two Best Ways to Get Unfriended on Facebook—A Study The Two Best Ways to Get Unfriended on Facebook—A Study
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The Two Best Ways to Get Unfriended on Facebook—A Study

by Siobhan O'Connor

October 24, 2010


Common sense is really all you need to understand what would make someone not want to be your friend on Facebook, but a business school has now done a study about it. According to new research by a graduate student at the University of Colorado, Denver, Business School, there are two main reasons people get unfriended online, and they are remarkably similar to the reasons people get unfriended in real life: Being annoying (posting too much about things that aren't interesting), and being offensive, especially about religious or political things.

The difference between real life and the internet, says the study, is the suddenness of the unfriending. From The New York Times:

“One of the interesting things about unfriending is that most real-world friendships either blow up or fade away,” said Christopher Sibona, who wrote the study with his adviser, Steven Walczak, an associate professor of information systems management. “But on Facebook, users actively make the decision to unfriend, and people often don’t know why or what’s happened in the relationship.”

I suppose that is true, but the reality is that most people have more Facebook friends than they have real friends, and one's real friends are less likely to actually unfriend them, even if that person is being annoying or offensive. Why? Because people don't want to hurt other people's feelings. Also, unfriending is really easy to do on Facebook. All it takes it a click. Unfriending in real life can mean anything from the easy (simply not returning phone calls) to the difficult (actually having a confrontation and saying you don't want to be friends).

But the real thing missing is that—and I can only defend this anecdotally—people do not tend to unfriend people who will actually notice that they have been unfriended. Example: I was promoting a book earlier this summer and several people told me they had hidden me from their news feeds because I was posting too much about the same thing, which I think is totally fair; I would have hidden me too. But was I unfriended? Maybe, but if I was, I didn't notice, making the act a little bit meaningless in real world terms.

Have you ever unfriended someone on Facebook that you actually know and are friends with in real life? Have you ever noticed when someone has unfriended you?

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